We’re all tough on ourselves at times, whether we’ve said or done the wrong thing or made a decision that had negative consequences. Quite often, we’re able to take those experiences and learn from them which can make us stronger. However, if you’re constantly criticising your actions then you’re in danger of limiting yourself and not realising your full potential. Instead of being driven to achieve more, you’ll be inhibited by a fear of failure. So, here are some tips on how to silence your inner critic.
- Don’t compare yourself to others
As the saying goes, ‘comparison is the thief of joy’. By constantly looking at what others have achieved rather than focusing on what you are capable of, you will be living life through a lens.
- Practise self-compassion
It’s okay to make mistakes or to feel the way we feel. We are only human after all and emotions, good or bad, can help teach us more about ourselves. Feel everything and grow. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn.
- Start a daily self-gratitude habit
Banish the inner critic by embracing the vocal champion of your life – yes that’s you! Tell yourself, in a mirror if necessary, what you are grateful for. Tell yourself what you’re great at. Congratulate yourself on achievements. Saying things out loud helps you acknowledge them and this in turn can change your mood and your mindset.
- Remember the big picture
One of my mantras is ‘progression, not perfection’. Looking at the bigger picture helps us in our journey to reach certain goals. If your inner critic is constantly telling you it isn’t perfect then you’ll be forever waiting to take the next step.
The best way to learn is to reflect. By taking action to learn from both your failures and achievements means you are mentally prepared to do better next time. If your intent is to do better, then how can anyone – or any voice – be critical of that?